Second hand Stress!!!????

I have always heard of second hand smoke but up until yesterday, I had never heard of second hand stress. I am still trying to figure it out. I understand if one person is stressed and the other isn't then there is no reason to stress out the one who isn't but the part I can't understand is "WHAT IS THE FIRST PERSON SUPPOSED TO DO????" am I just supposed to hold it in or is my only other option to let it out but to other people like on the message board or on here? What happened to the saying "communication is key to a relationship"? I always thought that was the rule but according to the councilor I guess I was wrong because it would be second hand stress if I vented or even acted stressed with my DF. I think that is bullshit and yes I said bullshit because it is my blog and I make the rules so therefor I can cuss if I want to, I can use punctuation or grammar mistakes if I want to or any other "general" rule I need to fuck up if it gets my feelings out lol.

My stress today comes from the fact that today is our Anniversary and instead of being able to spend it with my sweetie, I am forced to stay hidden for the day "Just in case" the bitch comes here after their meeting that the Army (well people in it) thought would be a great idea to have. So instead of us being able to cuddle and enjoy the day, I am stuck here hiding and he is meeting with the bitch. How freaking lovely. Happy freaking anniversary to me.
I wish all of this was done and over with but even though he just paid a lawyer allot of money, it could be up to 45 days or longer if she doesn't sign the DAMN paper. Why oh why did I ever think that Karma would be good to me if I was nice to my ex-husband? I WAS very nice and even turned down his car when the judge offered it to me, I thought well if I am nice now then later when I really need it, karma will be nice back and help me. BUT NOOOOOO karma gives me this super great and wonderful man who I plan on spending the rest of my life with but then gives me his big ass bitch of an ex to deal with. WTF karma? I need HELP not yet another obstacle to overcome in my pursuit of true and lasting happiness.
I finally found my happily ever after but before I can start it or enjoy it I have to fight the evil bitch lol.
That is another fucked up part about this situation, I can't say anything to her or even let my presence be known. I have to hide because of the stupid rule that would not apply in real life and just be there for him and I guess I am not allowed to be stressed or at least not allowed to show it because it would be second hand stress. Isn't that just a bitch????
 

Some people-Stressing today

Well I am running on maybe 3 hours of sleep. Ever since I woke up I have been on the phone trying to figure out a way to fix things and get the show on the road , the show being our legal matter. After 6 hours of being on the phone and searching on the net, the only thing I have found out is that I now have to search more. This sucks!!!!! I just wish this could all be over and our lives could start.
        I have tried to talk to people about this and alot of people have been very suportive but there was one woman that really made me feel like crap. I really wish she hadn't because now between the stress and her comments, I am starting to feel depressed.

I promise I will post alot more

So far I have no readers but I still need to post more because it helps me, So a promise to myself and future readers that I will post more

No support on support forums?

Well I am a member of a few message boards that are supposed to be support forums but so far I have received no support and have just had people judge me for the most part. I just don't understand why people need to feel superior and kinda well snobby towards others? There are some in my situation and they are supportive yet the ones that haven't had to go through all this are just non sympathetic at all. I do understand that everyone has their own opinion but seriously people? Can't we all just get along? I have been stressed to the max already and to me it is not right to add stress to anyone.

This morning's rant lol

Well today has been hectic so far. I got up with DH for PT at 5:00am and had soo much to do. After getting him up,dressed and out the door, I had to take the dogs out 4 times due to thier potty problem (gross I know) and then clean the house, get a load of laundry started, make coffee and then finally got to check my email which was full again. I still have alot to do today like call the twotogether in Texas place to hopefully schedule a class to get $60 knocked off of our marriage licence fee. I have been sooo stressed lately about that and all the other stresses we have had to deal with. I just wish everything would go away and we could finally start our lives together and finally have our "Happly ever after". Why didn't they warn us growing up that there is more then just "meet prince charming, have a big wedding then live happly ever after?" All the stuff we have had to deal with has caused my stomache to hurt all the time and alot of sleepless nights. DH is suposed to call the court lady again today to see if we can get one of our stressers to go away soon. I am praying she says "you know what just come tommarow" but I know that would never happen so maybe at least next week. We have his sister comeing in from NJ from the 11th-15th next month and would like to be married by then or get married while she is here. I really don't want to have to wait a a month again. The day of the last court date I cried almost the whole day because what happened. How in the world is it legal to push a date back this many times? Isn't there a limit? Why can't they see that all we want to do is be together, get married, and hopefully start a family? Well readers I am going to stop ranting for now and get moving on fixing this blog and makeing it better.